Not wear clothes that he did not like, do not buy something he does not like. All dressed up, all for him. In our relationship, he is a center, and I want to try to make him happy. Sometimes I feel that this is unfair and angry and disappointed, but I have repressed their own and do not express. My mother is also a lifetime listen to my father, maybe I asking things should not have asked. '

This
is a depression female Jane counselors say, her words reflect the
typical behavior of depression in women and mental activity. Clinical
psychologists found that female depression often are afraid to express
their inner needs and desires of self-denial, self-silent.

Psychologists
have found that depressed women when it comes to their own sorrow and
loss, can obviously see that there are two self in dialogue. Self
clearly know their true thoughts and feelings, and it says: "I want to,
I know, I think I see, I thought ..." the voice of the self be true, to
be called "my lord" . Another self mercilessly condemned the true self, it says: "You can not, you must, you should ..."

"He
I" accounted for a dominant position, the women get used to deny their
true inner thoughts, feelings and aspirations, and learn to use some of
the negative words, such as "dependent" and "passive" and "immature" to
evaluate their own the
need to belittle their own feelings, to hide their own ability to
conform to the view of the close and acceptance of each other in order
to get. The women will feel the true self, devoid of self-identity and sense of self-worth disappear, causing depression.

These women should learn to listen, "Lord, I Women
the importance of intimacy and dependency, seeking emotional support
and communication is a very real need is not "rely", "weak" and
"immature" performance. Women need to affirm their own wisdom.

People
want to establish close relationships with others, and also want to
develop and express their own special abilities and interests. But
women tend to think that these two objectives are contradictory, that
if the performance of your true self will ruin the intimacy. In
fact, many women blindly cater to a husband or boyfriend, they cater to
men but will be angry, because they could not figure out the real ideas
on the other side can not be with her frank, sincere communication. Therefore, women have to learn to express their thoughts and feelings, how to communicate and church partner.]